Littlehawke's Muse

You know, a lot of health care professionals scare the daylights out of me.  A few months ago a lady came in with a cat who had a femural fracture.  It was compound, con-minuted and open. It had been open for several days so the bone was dead.  It was either amputate or put the animal to sleep.  And said health care professional asked:  “Can’t you just PIN it?”  yeah.   sure.  then in 72 hours watch the wound go septic, kill the cat with an agonizing death.

Physicians are the worst. Nurses are up there too.  Not all, but a great many.

Then there are the people who take a few classes in psychology and couch-diagnose you in such a condescending manner that you just walk away and cut your losses.  I had to do that with a gaming friend not long ago.  Her self-righteous crap was just a little too much for me. I was sad about it at first. Now I just don’t give a fuck.

(this was a draft written in April, 2010 that I never posted.)

LH

In the early morning hours on Wed, October 24th, 2012 I was recovering patients from surgery at work.  It was a little after 1am EST.  My phone rings.  It’s playing the theme from the Wild Wild West the series.  That means someone in my family is calling. Since it’s only my Dad or my brother, I swear silently to myself and answer because it’s Rick.

“hello”

“Hey, It’s Rick. I have some bad news…..”

shit…. oh god…….

“Ok”….

“Dad died about 2 hours ago.”

There are tears in his eyes, I can hear them in his voice.  My brother really doesn’t cry.  He’s not an emotional sort really. At least not that I have ever seen much.  This time I didn’t tell him it wasn’t funny.  The nagging feeling I had been experiencing since Summer was gone and I knew it was this which had hovered on the horizon.  Fuck I hate being right.  I thought is was my Aunt’s death that had been that other shoe.  Then Mark Metz died in a hunting accident. In fact that afternoon, I had been to Mark’s funeral.  Tears rolled silently down my face as I listened to Rick recount what he knew, what he didn’t know and what the hell were we going to do now?  Two orphans with no clue and our parents snatched from us in an instant it seemed.

Brittany comes in and sees me on the phone, tears streaming down my face and asks what happened.

“My Dad just died” I tell her.

“you need to go home. Right now. I’ll stay, don’t worry about it, just go home.  Let me know you got home safe and we’ll talk to Dr. Chevalier in the morning.”

Brittany is a good kid.  I don’t have the words to thank her properly for her compassion and will to help in a situation no one should have to go through.  She didn’t argue, she just pointed. I left for home.  On the way I called Matt.  We cried together over the phone.  I cried all the way home.

When I was 18 I left for college in Iowa.  I was drugged and raped my first week there. I lost half a year or better of my memory and still don’t remember the actual event well.  What I do remember is enough.  I’m not sure I want to remember more.  I quit school, went home in shame and lived there until sometime in August when I went back to face demons.  I never really returned home.  I had become the black sheep of the family.  I went for my 10 year HS reunion, the occasional family holiday but that’s all.  I didn’t see my parents for 10 years or more. Mom got esophageal cancer and Dad felt that as aggressive as those cancers can be, we’d best have a family vacation and NOW.  So he paid for the four of us to go to Spain for 14 days.  It was amazing.  Once again, I was the black sheep. My perforated and painted body was something Mother didn’t approve of.  While Dad might not have approved, at least he like the artwork I chose to display, if not the medium in which I did it.  Another strike against me.  I had already married and divorced my first husband who beat me.  I was on my second husband whom I didn’t love, but offered financial security for a time.  That ended not long after the trip to Spain.  I moved to West Virginia.  I had friends, a good job and my hobby. I met my current husband.   I was truly happy for the first time ever.  I had the first and only grandchild.  Mom and Dad came out for the birth of my first born.  It was traumatic and wonderful all at once.  Mom seemed to forgive me some.  We talked for the first time in over 15 years.  Dad and I got closer.  I still didn’t go home.  My home was here now, with the family I had helped create.  I was loved.

Mom got cancer again. Years of smoking finally reared up in her lungs.  Found after a fall which broke her hip and cracked her pelvis, she underwent radiation therapy once more.  Handling it much better than the same regemen for her throat 8 years prior.  But the radiation had left her bones brittle and she’d fallen again.  Surgery and more tests, a live in rehab center for athletes and convalescents, and mom recovered from the lung cancer.  But the tests had revealed cancer of her liver this time.  in 3 weeks or less Mom went from recovering to a back injury due to brittle bones.  Then one night, she broke her back, threw a clot and it was over.

Somewhere in the middle of this my father had a stroke.  For 10 days I didn’t even KNOW about it. No one called me.  NO ONE.  I was hurt, livid, angry, crushed.  In many ways I still am.  I wasn’t there for him and was refused the right to come out to help when I offered to quit my job, take a leave of absence or whatever was needed and do just that.  I was the daughter that no one wanted.

My parents celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary 2 years ago this last August.  I flew my entire family out, including a grand son neither of them had ever met as a surprise.  It was the only time I had seen my father cry.  Mom never really said anything.  I’m not even sure she was happy to see me.  The boys I know she wanted to see, but me…. I’ll never really know.  A year and a half later,on January 22, 2012, Mom died.  We flew out to her celebration of life.  Her urn was placed on the mantle. The ground was frozen so we couldn’t bury her.  We opted to do so in the summer when the ground was more forgiving.  6 months later, my boys, my husband, my brother, Dad and a few very close friends shoveled dirt over mom’s urn in a simple grave in a graveyard which houses bones as old as the gold rush and before.  In my head, I buried my mom twice.

That week we went with Dad to some silly things like burrow races in Fairplay, dinner with friends, sight seeing and just quality time with my Dad.  It was nice.  Matt and I decided we’d take the family out again very soon because the boys needed to know their Grand Pere and he needed to know them.

In September my Aunt died.  Rick and I went to her funeral and were reunited with mom’s brother and our cousins.  We, the kids, had formulated a secret plan to get a family which had drifted apart over 30 years back together.

October… and here we are.  Rick and I split phone calls to people we know from our old home town.  We hack into Dad’s email to send a blanket email about his death to people we didn’t have phone numbers for since Dad’s phone had gone missing the night he died.  Rick and I posted both our phone numbers on the email to contact.  Of the HUNDREDS of people on the lists…. one called me.  ONE.  And that was because he couldn’t get in touch with Rick fast enough.  I am still…. the daughter that wasn’t.  Rick, Matt and myself shoveled dirt over Dad’s urn in a grave right next to Mom’s.  It was a beautiful day.

The amount of guilt I carry now is staggering.  I wasn’t there for Mom’s Illnesses, nor Dad’s stoke and recovery.  Rick carried it all and became the local hero in the eyes of all the people my parents knew and loved at home.  I was simply some girl they claimed as a daughter that they never saw and didn’t really care to see.  It hurts.  More than I have words for, it hurts every damn day. I hurt for Rick who hasn’t had a life for 20 years, I hurt for the loss of my mom who never really wanted me around, and for my Dad who didn’t really accept me for who I am, but did try. I hurt for the loss of a grandfather my boys will never really know.  He was amazing.

I cry every day.  I try not to, but I do.  There is so much I wanted to say and do with Dad still. So much about him I wanted my boys to know.  So now I have to settle for stories and pictures and his photographic art to tell the story of a man who for as long as I can remember represented my whole world.

People who know me well try to understand and express their sympathy. But they don’t know, they can’t see. I died that day too in some ways.  I’m not good company,  I’m needy and insecure.  I both need to be alone and want to be with people so I don’t have to think.  I am a mess. I want to crawl under a rock and stay there.

Rick can finally have a life.  But I know he’s a little lost right now.  He’s spent so much time over the years looking after our parents that now…….. And I feel guilty over that.  I wish so much were different.

Spend time with people you love. Tell them you love them, show them at every opportunity.  Tomorrow might not come.

LH

There are many things in my life that have been difficult, have backlash, left me bereft.  There are even more things in my life that have brought me joy, a sense of wonder and love.  My mom and I were never really all that close.  But when I was a little kid, during the height of the ‘sexual revolution’, people would ask me what I wanted to be when I grew up.  I would always say that I wanted to be a mom.  A mom like mine.  They would look at me funny and say something to the effect of “that’s all? just a mom?”  So after a while, fearing to disappoint my peers, I would say things like… ‘oh a nurse’ or ‘a teacher’.  But in reality, all I wanted to be was a mom.  Mom raised us as little kids.  Dad spent his entire young adult life making a life for the rest of us while he worked himself into nervous heart palpitations and a few trips to the ER.  But Mom was also cruel in some things.

When we moved half the country away from home at 2 months before my 12th birthday to start over things changed for us all.  Mom became a heavy drinker.  She still smoked and for a while it was up to 3 packs of cigarettes a day.  She couldn’t get out of bed without her hangover coffee and 3-4 cigarettes most of the time.  More than once I cleaned up after her.  I never had friends over to the house.  Mom rarely showed for swim meets, came to my plays and I’d worry, came to my band concerts and I’d worry.  I moved away when I went to college because I couldn’t handle it.  I learned through her that I would never be pretty, smart or amount to anything.  Almost always when she was drunk.

For her own reasons this would get better or worse, she’d disappear and reappear at important occasions.  Dad would be furious but do nothing.  My brother Rick would be left to pick up the pieces.  I just couldn’t it. I couldn’t deal with it.  My own self loathing was such that I married a man who began to beat me within 6 months of our wedding, then married a second man years later who cheated on me for 7 years…… It took me a long time to figure out that I could make choices that didn’t hurt me or mean I was worthless.  I’m honestly still dealing with that every day.

12 years ago my mother had esophageal cancer.  That is a horrible type of cancer typically because it moves quickly, mets  out extremely fast and generally doesn’t have a decent survival rate. Mom opted for high dose radiation rather than chemo because she didn’t want to lose her hair.  1 year later, then 5 then 8 and then 10 she was pronounced cancer free.  In December of 2010, mom fell and cracked her hip on the ice.  the tests, scans and battery of other hospital crap over a period of about 8 weeks brought forth the diagnosis of lung cancer in her left lung.  Again, she opted for high dose radiation rather than chemo and it went well.  She handled this radiation better than the one years before and bounced back with renewed vigor.  Mom and Dad made plans to travel again.

Then at Thanksgiving of 2011, mom fell again and snapped her femur in two.  Surgery placed a pin and two screws to give her more stability than she’d had on that side in literally over a decade.  She went to a live-in rehab facility in Denver for 3-6 weeks.  3 weeks into it, she felt faint.  Her )2 sats were 75% and her heart rate had plummeted to 35.  They rushed her to the ER, she was admitted to the ICU ward at St Anthony’s in Denver and was there two nights.  Once they figured out that due to her bilateral subclavial stenosis, her hands had little to no decent circulation, and placed the pulse oxometer on the right area, things got better.  She went back to the facility in 2 more days and was eventually released to go home within another 10.  She wsa again in good spirits and bitching at people in the way someone does when they’d had enough fawning over them.  Though the latest news was not good for the long run. Tests run during her stint in the ICU revealed liver cancer.  My mind said that the lung cancer had metted out faster than they thought and we would lose her before July of this coming summer.  I made plans to spend the week with my family and parents and brother in the early summer.

About a week after that, Mom fell in the house.  She didn’t know how it happened, when it happened or anything. She was confused and upset.  The ambulance again arrived and she went to the hospital.  This time she had a compression fracture of a vertebra in her back.  Into a back brace and back to the center she went.

On Monday, Janurary 23, 2012 my brother called me at about 8am his time.  My first reaction was that something bad had happened to either mom again or to dad.  “I don’t know how to say this, but I’m just going to…. Mom died last night.”

Stunned, my mouth dropped open.  “WHAT?  THIS ISN”T FUNNY”

“I’m not kidding.  It happened sometime in the middle of the night. They don’t know how exactly.”

20 minutes of conversation and all I can say is… ‘ok, ok, ok.’  To everything my brother tells me.  My guilt at not being there through dad’s stroke, mom’s illnesses and to help him came full force to hit me in the face.  The coroner wouldn’t be releasing the body for a couple days due to the fact that she didn’t die at home. They had to make sure it wasn’t due to neglect or whatever at the facility.  That she wanted to be cremated gave me time thankfully to tell my employer, arrange my schedule, have the younger children looked after and booked flights out to Denver.  I call my oldest cousin to tell him because my mom’s brother is his father.  I couldn’t call Unc myself.  I couldn’t hold it together to do it.

I loved my mom.  I always will. Whatever differences we had, what ever cruel and mean things were said and done pale in the wake of losing someone who loved me in a way no other will on this earth.  The ground is so frozen where my folks live that we opted to not bury the ashes until this summer.  So we had a celebration of life or *wake* for her instead and I think 300 people came.  Some I knew. Most I didn’t.  I hadn’t been home to visit in a very long time over 30 years.  Maybe 3 times in all.  For me it was just too hard, too heartbreaking and sad.  I was never what mom wanted for a daughter, never enough for Dad to truly be proud of what I do.  But that doesn’t detract from the love I felt and will miss every day.

So I looked at all the boards they put up with pictures of her through college, HS, my brother and I as kids, mom and dad’s travels, their 50th wedding anniversary 2 years ago where I surprised them and brought the entire family out including 1 grand child they had not met yet.  Named after my dad.  I realized I had missed out on a lot.  My young kids had missed out even more in not getting to know them.  The guilt I feel will probably last forever because, well, I’m like that.  I have a big heart, I am hurt easily and I hold a grudge with the best of my Scot ancestors. (Sound familiar Mom?)

Over the years I have made a point to tell my parents, my brother, friends and other relatives that I love them and mean it from the heart. I still do that every day.  My husband and I went out, I spent days going through Mom’s things she left me.  Sorting, crying, marveling at all the stuff she collected over the years.  We came home on Sunday, Feb. 5th.  I went back to work. The kids came home, life resumed it’s relatively normal pace.

I am more careful now. I do things for people I care about not because I feel obligated but because I don’t know how long they will be in my life and I want to make it count.  I can’t make up for the lost time with mom, but I will damn sure make use of the time I have now with those I have in my life.

I miss you Mom.  Every day.  I know that now you don’t hurt, you don’t hate yourself so much and you don’t spend every waking hour worried or in pain.  I know you loved us all very much.  I hope that you know we loved you too.  Watch over Dad ok?  He doesn’t know it, but he needs you still.  I hope someday, I can be the kind of mom that would make you proud.

Yesterday morning, it was 68 degrees outside at 7:30am. The sky was gray with patches of blue and very dark clouds on the horizon. Within 2 hours, the wind had picked up a great deal. The house became darkened and thunder could be heard in the distance. Trees bowed and whipped their branches in our yard as the rain began to come down in sheets. As the front moved through, the temperature dropped 20 degrees. Spring made its appearance to remind us of what is to come.

This morning as I walked the dog before attempting to sleep for the day of my overnight shift, I noticed the Daffodils forcing their way through the earth under the big oak tree outside the living room window. The Crocus will soon follow. It frosted last night, so the new leaves on my Butterfly bush might not make it. We shall see. The frozen earth wakes as the days become longer. Songbirds seem confused as they chirp away at 2am.

I am getting ready for 2 major cooking weekends. I’m behind in school, I joined a gym and have been there every day but one since. I’m trying to put more into my days than I have hours for….. the house needs a good shoveling of crap to the curb. My oldest cousin whom I have not seen in 20 years or more is coming to visit at the end of the month. My mother has cancer at age 74. My 17 year old step son will not graduate High School this year due to his own anal-cranial inversion problem and he’s just now figured out what it means that he truly fucked up. It’s going to be another wild ride this year….

On top of all that, enter a newly made close friend? Or someone I thought of as a close friend who later gave me an ultimatum as if he were my commanding officer. It didn’t go over very well and I’ve pretty much decided he’s a selfish bastard in many ways. Also enter friend of many years, and crush as well….. having difficulties of his own and needing a sounding board. He is someone I can honestly say is not selfish in any way and sometimes suffers for it. I am doing the best I can to help him through……. but words aren’t always enough…. it bothers me I cannot do more.

My own family and herd of fuzzy creatures is healthy and happy. The brothers fight and scream, yell and hit as boys do. The older seems to think he’s the parent when he can’t even manage his own laundry or keep his homework straight. the baby is…. well the baby and still at the age where everything should revolve around him…. according to him. My oldest is truly amazing to me every day. I often wonder if I am a good mom, a decent wife or even a good friend. but I am truly blessed with the people in my life and thank the Lord and Lady every day for the parts they all play within it. I always want to be more…. do more, just never seem to get to it all. I am half way through my life and there’s still so much more to do. So many more things to appreciate, see, experience, teach and love.

Ahhhhh Spring….. awakenings, change and revalations

Originally this was written in 1998, late in the year. Reposted in several places including LJ

“Missy”

Current mood: melancholy

On January 28, 1998 a young man came to us asking that we examine a female Pit Bull he was looking to purchase from the current owners. He told us that she had a skin condition and that he wanted to know how much it would take to “make her right” before he purchased her. So we put the young man in the large exam room with the dog to wait as he filled out his registration forms and so on.

Upon entering the room some minutes later, I was struck with the intense odor that was coming from this poor dog. There are several odors a person who works with companion animals never forgets once experiencing them. One is the odor of a dog suffering from Canine Parvovirus Enteritis (parvo). That is the smell of rotting flesh… such as bad hamburger coupled with the smell of fecal matter and other assorted nasties. The other is something I call the “skin smell”. It is the odor of infected and rotting flesh on the outside of the body of an animal. Usually this is caused by secondary staph and bacterial infections brought on by something else. THIS is the smell that hit me.

There on the floor of the exam room, as I entered, wanting nothing more than to be loved and wanted, stood Missy. A tan and white American Pit Bull with the most beautiful green eyes I had ever seen. Friendly as could be, she wobbled over to me and sat down with those wonderful eyes staring up at me as if to say, “hello, will you love me?” I wanted to cry and scoop her up in my arms all at once.

This poor, beautiful, suffering dog was covered head to tail with sores. Open, weeping and bleeding in many places, and in fewer-scabbed over but weepy still. There was almost no fur on her body save her immediate face. It was the most horrid skin case I had ever witnessed. The amount of time she had been left alone and untreated for the primary cause of this plight had to be extensive. Several months to at year probably. Most likely, Missy had contracted Demodectic Mange as a new puppy and it had been left untreated all this time. What sat at my feet before me this day was the result. Holding back tears I could do nothing but love her. Though her condition was so ugly that it hurt to look at, Missy was a beautiful dog. On top of all this, Missy was also terribly thin. More than likely she had internal parasites and poor diet loaded on top of this neglect. Amazingly, she still wanted people. She still sought love and affection. It was amazing and completely alien to me how any animal could still have that capacity after this kind of life.

To treat Missy, and get her back to reasonable health would cost several hundreds of dollars in medications, medicated baths and special diets. It would be months before she even got her fur back if we treated her. The young man contemplated this for several minutes. This young man, with all his kind intentions, did not have that kind of money. Neither did I. Had I the money or the means, I would have taken Missy and treated her here at the clinic. The young man then stated flatly that he couldn’t take her back to the owners, since he knew they would only tie her back outside in the cold and leave her to die. He then did the only thing he felt he could do. He asked us to put Missy to sleep.

Of all the things I do in my job, putting an animal down is always the most difficult. I feel some of those for days. This one will haunt me for the rest of my life. Knowing this poor tortured animal had reached outside its pain and suffering, yet gone beyond her horrible treatment to not hate all humans, made this decision seem so damned unfair. Many times, when I think about it now, it still seems that way.

I stayed in the room and held Missy as we administered the overdose of barbituates which would release her from this life. I looked into her beautiful green eyes and told her it would all be okay. It would soon end and she would not hurt anymore. Then she slipped into her permanent sleep. As I laid her head down, white-hot fire shot through me. My skin burned so hot I choked back a startled scream. I gripped the exam table to stay upright and closed my eyes. Then, as fast as it hit, it was gone. I knew then that this had been the right decision for Missy. She gave me the gift of releasing me from guilt as we had released her from her horror.

When the client left the office, he’d asked that we take care of Missy’s body for him. I had her privately cremated and her ashes returned as the only gift I had to give her. I still see her in my dreams and in my mind’s eye from time to time. She follows me as a reminder that sometimes, that which makes us feel sorrow, also makes us human.

Being human is the most difficult thing sometimes…….

END

Note; Missy is the reason I have the dog I have now. I swore on her ashes that I would not turn down helping another dog if I had the means to do so when one came along. About 3 months later, Phantom and his whole litter were dropped at the doorstep of the shelter with a bottle of milk. I bottle fed him, adopted him out, he came back to the shelter, and I came to get him and took him home. He’s 11 years old now.

Today is March 1, 2011 I put Phantom down in September of 2009. He had cancer. I still cannot bring myself to write more than that about it … He touched me that much. We Acquired Tonks the Beagle when Phantom was about 4. She is 5 or 6 now. I love her, but she’s not Phantom, and I’ll never have another Beagle……

So, Today is president’s day. Matt had the day off from work so he took Richard and myself to brunch. On our way home, some idiot in a ridiculously large SUV pulled out against traffic to cut Matt off. He says… “Dude, you had oncoming, learn to drive” And Richard, in the backseat started in with “Yeah dude… whatcha doing dude, daddy you’re a dude, where’s the dude, ….”  They don’t call this stage the “little parrot” stage for nothing.

At least his word of the week isn’t “Disgusting” anymore. Or as he says… “Igusting” Bless their hearts, the women at the daycare are trying to help us with getting Richard potty trained. They tell him “EWWwww… that’s disgusting” every time they change a diaper. Which would probably work if it made him think badly of the whole deal. Instead, Richard likes the word so much it’s become a game. While I’m not overly worried about the potty training being on a timer, I’d sure be happy when there are no more diapers….. sheesh.

LH

At some point, there has to be a limit as to how much people can take in the form of nit-picking, ugliness and downright nasty comments from an employer. WV is an “At Will” employment state. This means that everyone with a job can be fired at any time without reason or can quit at any time without reason because it is all “At Will”. It sucks monkey balls. Big time.  This weekend I watched, listened and witnessed my managing doctor lay into three of the newer employees all day long for 2 solid days. Not to mention the rest of us for the same amount of time…. just not as frequently. It was insulting, degrading, maddening and ugly. I am not impressed. I am disappointed and infuriated. Unfortunately, there is nothing any of us can do since the board seems to think this person is the sun and the moon. I’d make a Karma call, but that always kicks you in the ass twice and then a third time for bothering them….. *sigh* time to look for other employment again I think…..

LH

With all the crap going on at the clinic lately, I really feel like I’ve been thrown under the bus by people. First with vacation, now with insurance. I’m being told one thing, and then the next person tells me something else. Since there is no written handbook with rules and regulations for the clinic other than memos of heated doctors getting off on their individual power trips, it’s he said/she said in the clinic. Oh How I MISS you Dr. Hersman.  You have no idea.

In my frustration I posted something to my FB account about putting a picture of my boss’s face on my pell and repeatedly beating it with my sword until I felt better. Apparently people who don’t know me well, haven’t bothered to GET to know me and who think they know everything that is appropriate ratted me out to said boss. She then called me to ask me if I did say that. Well, since I didn’t put a NAME, just said “my boss”, it could have been any of the doctors, but I told her that yes, I said that. She started laughing. She thought it was funny.

Now the Dr. who saw it and told her …… is the same doctor whom I watched yank a dog by the collar off the treatment table to the floor, and proceed to threaten, hit and show it the back door and the river. The entire time she was telling the dog she was going to throw it in the river because it was being unruly and it was scared. So…. tell me, WHO did something inappropriate?  I posted an opinion, a frustration and what I had thought at the time might make me feel a little bit better.  Who among us had never said something like “Oh they make me so mad I could just kill them sometimes” or “I could just smack the stupid out of them” or something along those lines? Because if you sit there and tell me you’ve never thought, written it down, said it out loud or acted on those feelings, you are lying to me and I have no respect or use for you.

So, now only 3 or 4 people have access to my FB account from work. If something I post gets back to people, I know who did it and can act accordingly. And believe me, I will. I’m done being betrayed and thrown under the bus by people I thought were trust worthy. Y’all have fair warning now. Either buck up or shut the fuck up!

LH

Well, I finally did it. I went back to school. I’m starting slowly at first. Getting my feet wet. So far I’m not doing too badly. It will be worth it in the end I think. After this portion, I hope to go into some sort of forensics. Maybe forensic psychology or science. Most programs file those under a Criminal Justice degree. We’ll see. I have been told that around here, it’s a worthless degree. I guess I’ll know more about what I want to go into once I get this section of school done with. I guess we’ll just have to wait and see

LH

Warning…. the following has the transcripts directly off the website for WCHS news in Charleston, WV. And after that, is my response in email to that station. It is not pretty, nice or fun.
EYEWITNESS LOCAL NEWS
from Eyewitness News Online

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 To Jeremy Williams and his dog Toby, Ruth Diller is a lifesaver. To the people who know and work with her, she’s way more than just a good Samaritan.

“She’s a humanitarian of the first class. It doesn’t matter if it’s animals, or if it’s people, whatever the cause, she’s always there to help.” Kackie Eller has worked with teacher Ruth Diller for years. When she found out Mrs. Diller stepped in to pay for this pit bull’s medical bills, Eller says she wasn’t a bit surprised. “She just rises to the cause. Anytime she sees an animal in need, or a person with an animal that needs help. That’s just her nature,” said Eller.

Nine-year-old Toby was hit with two arrows during a break-in at Jeremy Williams’ Cross Lanes home. He reached out for help because he couldn’t pay the medical bills for his dog.

Diller volunteered immediately–a trait her colleagues say carries over into the classroom. GWHS principal Missy Ruddle says, “She teaches them the things that are important in life, about being a good citizen.”

She collects spare change from students, to show how much they can help out in the community.

Ruddle said, “She wants kids to learn to care about other people, and to care about animals, and to care about just anything on this Earth.”

Butch Townsend also works with Diller. She convinced him to keep a stray cat he picked up, and taught him how to responsibly take care of it. Now, as president of the Eagles Club, he pays that kindness forward. He says they take up collections of supplies like newspaper, food, and more for local animal shelters. “She’s rubbed off on me,” he said of Diller.

We couldn’t catch up with her this morning, but her friends tell us even though Diller usually likes to do things for other people anonymously, the good deeds don’t go unnoticed.

We got an outpouring of support from Eyewitness News viewers to help Jeremy Williams. He expressed his deep gratitude for everyone’s support.

Toby is recuperating at home.

my response:

Dear WCHS

Before you go off half cocked without the whole story, try researching for a change.  What you don’t know about the idiot with the pit bull is the following;

That guy demanded… DEMANDED free treatment because he’s a veteran.  He’s not disabled, He’s not infirm, he can get a job like everyone else.  The man THREATENED the doctor at the clinic. He was also verbally abusive.  THE CLINIC had to call the cops on him  The man was so drunk he could barely stand and the girl with him had a history of drug abuse.  The COPS told us this.  The clinic is not a 24 hour clinic. It is open when all the other day practices are closed.  The dog tried to eat our clinic blood donor cats.  It had to be muzzled to work with it at all. The clinic was going to offer free meds,  but the owner stormed out of the clinic of his own free will before we could prepare them. The clinic did NOT send the dog home to die. That was his choice.  Under the law, we could have possibly pressed animal cruelty charges for the client leaving without treatment for the dog or allowing humane euthanasia and letting his dog suffer of his own free will.

You made it look like all we care about is money when we work with animals. That is not true. If it were, everything we did would be for free. But supplies, equipment and people willing to work every holiday on the calendar, getting compensation pay for only 6 of them, working nights weekends and giving up pretty much any kind of social life to work with people like that cost money. Getting punched in the face, bitten by a dog for entering the exam room in the wrong color shirt, and having your car vandalized at your workplace…. does that sound like we are there for the money? Does it sound like all we care about is a paycheck? WE still come back. We come in sick. So sick that after the shift is over, THEN we go to the ER for ourselves.  THAT is what our clinic and what we do is about.

It’s about compassion. It’s about doing the right thing by the animal under the constraints given us by the law and keeping the clinic out of the red. NO one wants to turn away an animal in need. But honestly, pets are like children in they are NOT A RIGHT. They are a privilege. If you cannot feed them, care for them and give them the home they deserve, DON’T HAVE ONE. Stick around sometime when a pet comes in covered from shoulder to tail in maggots 3 days old, smelling of death and is literally being eaten alive. In so much pain it can’t function and all because the owner manages to put water in a pan once a day and maybe food if it’s lucky. Then when the food doesn’t disappear, they think maybe something is wrong…. and wait until the animal has suffered for so long and has so much internal damage, tissue damage and smells like death, that the only thing we can do is end its pain. THEN tell me all we care about is money while we cry silently as we shave the animal to see the true extent of the damage, knowing it’s the second animal from the same family in a week to end up like this. Come listen to me, personally sing every animal I help put to sleep off to a better place. Then spend the next ten minutes watching the tears silently roll down my face as I file it away and take it home in my crumbling heart.

Years ago I started in college under the journalism department in another state. After my first semester, I dropped it. This kind of un-researched, half-assed, get a story at all costs in order to sell a paper/story is unconscionable and I couldn’t stomach it. That anyone can is truly mind boggling.

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And people wonder why I hate reporters…..

LH